The Best Thing to Happen This Year

We still have a few months to go until 2017 ends. The year has moved by so quickly it’s hard to pin point what has been the best.
I believe the best is yet to come.
I think one of the biggest highlights for me is becoming a contributor to an online magazine in which I’ve spent the past five years reading, and now I’m writing for them.
There’s a huge team, I feel incredibly honoured to be part of such a wonderful thing.
I’ve some exciting things coming up with The Red Head Diaries blog.
There was the charity barn dance which was great fun, I swore I wouldn’t fundraise again, but then the fun day happened.

Which was amazing, the day went incredibly well, we made £545 to split between two charities, we’re really pleased with what we achieved.

The day went as smoothly as it could, even with the many tears.
We have had a camping trip to the Cotswolds – Chipping Norton, it was so lovely to get away, we’ve planned at least two for next year.
So, whilst I can’t pick one thing, there’s still time

Ten Favourite Foods

Considering I am on a diet, I really shouldn’t be thinking on my favourite foods.

When I was pregnant with my last baby, I was down to eating 2-3 foods for the whole of my pregnancy, that has put me off a lot of foods too.

Big fan of crap food, hence why I am now attempting to diet my way through life.

But if I could have anything.

My ten favourite foods would be.

  1. Scones,
  2. Avocado Salad
  3. Bangers and Mash
  4. Jacket potato with Cheese and Beans
  5. Mackon Chicken with Coconut Rice
  6. Pork and Rice (Hairy dieters recipe)
  7. Lidl Blueberry Muffins
  8. Gnocchi
  9. Strawberries
  10. Pesto and pasta.

 

Plenty of rubbish, but some good things too.

What are you loving right now?

 

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Difficult Time In My Life

I have been through many difficult periods of my life; I have also made some awful mistakes. I’m not perfect. Things I always thought were the worst I could ever go through, even things I have blocked the best way I can from my memory.

It wasn’t until watching our baby girl die on our arms, that everything I ever saw were difficult periods dissolved into nothing. Of course there are worse things than losing a young baby, but to me (and I wouldn’t want anything else to happen), losing her has been the most difficult.

It isn’t a time though, as now it is a permanent life changing thing that has happened, but the bigger picture the things that happened as a result of her death have led to difficult times; confusing times.

We watched family and friends turn their backs, when the family who are supposed to hold you up are the ones who help to push your head under water. Trying to adjust to such a loss, whilst wracking our brains about why people could see our grief be offensive, or use it against us in some way.

I think that would have been the most difficult. Maybe our expectations were high on how people, particularly family and friends would support us through the loss of our girl. Five years later there are things that have gotten better, whilst other parts I don’t think will ever repair.

The hurt left behind can never be forgotten, time has helped us become the bigger people, but it can’t help with forgiveness.

The saying really is true, that you certainly discover who your people are when times are hard.

 

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What I Collect

When I was a child I collected erasers, I had a large collection with many different shapes and sizes.

I wouldn’t really say I collected anything now as an adult, however Mr Red would somewhat disagree.

Bags, not designer handbags; there’s no Gucci, Chanel or Burberry (I have just Googled the names), I do have a few handbags, but it is nothing compared to my rather large reusable shopping bag collection.

I’d say I have about 30, but upon asking the mister, it would be closer to 100.

I have all sorts of character ones, from Finding Dory to Frozen, mostly from Tesco. I have Canvas ones which are Harry Potter, Trolls and Alice in Wonderland from Poundland and Primark. I have no idea why I have so many, but I use the vast majority of them. Canvas ones occasionally replace my handbags; they fit more crap in them. They’re ideal for swimming too.

I don’t just have ones with characters on, I have the generic supermarket ones as well as ones which raise money for charity, like Count the Kicks and BHF (which is a daffodil one).

It probably is a little excessive, but I don’t care. I like them; I’ll continue to purchase them.

The photo I have included is of course not the whole collection, but if I were to get them all out, the two littlest people would no doubt spread them around the house.

These really are a very, very few of my collection.

Why do I like them so much?

I have no idea if I am honest, but I do know it isn’t a strange collection to have.

Will I stop?

No.

I do have another collection, which is shared on another day…

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Meaning Behind My Blog Name(s)

I run two, my first one I have had for a little while and have had several name changes in the five years I have had it, but had the current name for almost a year.

It is such a damn obvious name; I have no idea why I never used it sooner.

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Melody and Me.

It has become such an important place for me, a safe place to share our daughter, to relieve some thoughts, to help others understand why and what I am thinking. It isn’t always easy to get these things across, especially some people would rather risk running across the road in front of a bus than speak about the life we lost.

It is strange to have had this space for this long now.

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The Red Head Diaries

This blog, I have again had several name changes, and I have never really been overly confident with this one I must admit. I have no idea why, but as it is a parenting and general life blog, I always feel I am pretty much winging both life and parenting, and it isn’t always particularly exciting, but ultimately I don’t really do it for anyone else, I love writing if it gets read then bonus.

Again I can’t believe I never had this name sooner. I am a read head, my children are all read heads, my husband has a hint of red in his hair (although he won’t admit to it).

And red heads are absolutely awesome – and hot (tempered).

 

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My Most Proud Moment

I don’t think I can pick just one proud moment. I am a typical Mum I am proud of everything my children do, and I’m also proud of my husband for the things he achieves.

I guess the biggest thing, was how they have all pulled together through the death of our daughter. How well the children behaved and continue to behave in a way I’d never imagined after what they’d been through.

My children together have broken through the unimaginable taboo; have failed to keep silent about the death of their sister.

They speak of her when they want to, they have taught their sister, and will continue to teach their baby sister, about the sister they never got to meet.

It was never part of the plan for them to have to teach the world about their sister, it was never part of the plan to watch their hearts break, to know that babies die.

To have walked through something that most adults have repeatedly said they’d not survive, to have come out the other side the little humans that they are.

They don’t talk about their sister 24/7, but they do talk about her, they nothing more than to tell people they have a sister who lives in the clouds; to write about her in school projects.

Showing the love for their sibling who they only knew through a plastic box, who was only here for such a short time.

So, no I don’t have one proud moment, I have a family who has many moments to be proud of.

 

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The Top of My Bucket List

I try not to speak about bucket lists too much.

Live for the moment, I really do like to take one day at a time. We do make plans of course we do but the bigger ones we don’t always plan too far on advance.

The top of my bucket list would be to travel the whole of the UK, including Scotland. I am sure there is a whole world that needs visiting. But I am privileged enough to have been born in a country with such beautiful heritage and histories. I’m lucky that where I live, here in Somerset we’re already surrounded by stunning landscapes and wonderful buildings, but I would love to see them all.

We’re hoping to do Scotland in a couple of years anyway, but I would love to visit everywhere, even if there are places that aren’t as picturesque, they still have character of some kind. Although I am not religious, I think the UK has some beautiful churches and cathedrals.

We’re members of the National Trust, so we do get so see some of the local areas which are included, so this will help towards the sights I would love to see. There are many theme parks here that we could enjoy, countryside outside of Somerset to visit.

Don’t get me wrong there are a few places I’d like to visit away from the UK, Italy being one and Disney Land too…I know not a wide spectrum. But it is here I’d love to explore more first, nooks and crannies that aren’t huge on the tourist lists. I’d like to write Melody’s name in all of the beaches here, visit the lakes and see the Dragonflies.

Try cream teas in different parts, try foods that maybe I have already tried but are from a specific region, maybe cider is actually better away from Somerset, (I doubt it ;))I know real Irish Guinness is nicer that the pub version.

I live in a beautiful country;I look forward to seeing more.

 

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